During a recent conversation, passwords and internet safety came up in our discussion. I realized that they were unaware of the many scams on the internet. While they understood that they were never to give their social security number, date of birth or any personal information to telemarketers or door-to-door solicitors – they were unaware of the many ways that someone can use the internet and emails to acquire that information in order to deceive them and/or commit fraud and theft.

I discussed some of the most important points that any person should know about computer safety. Today, I thought I’d share them with you as well so you can make sure that not only you – but your older loved ones are aware of these safety measures.

#1 – Protect Your Identity. Do not provide your social security number, date of birth, mother’s maiden name, place of birth, personal information about your children and spouse, passwords, usernames or even your home address to anyone that you do not personally know. Companies that you already deal with, like your bank or credit card company, will NEVER send you an email requesting personal information – they already have it. If you are filling out an online application that requests this information – ensure that you are actually providing it to a legitimate entity through secure means (for example through an encrypted server connection) and make sure that you know the reputation of the party in which you are providing it. If you have any doubts, then don’t do it online.

#2 – Protect Your Computer - Before you do anything via the internet – Make sure that your computer is protected. Keep you operating system and browser software up to date and set to the highest security level you can tolerate. Use quality anti-spyware, anti-virus and firewall software and make sure that it is also current and ON. Use passwords, anti-virus software and firewalls on every computer you use. If you have a wireless connection – make sure that you put a password on it so that it is LOCKED and not usable except by those in your household. Further, schedule your computer to delete history, cookies, passwords, temporary files and the like on a regular basis. Not only will your system run better, but you will further protect yourself.

#3 – Buying Online - Never provide banking information and/or credit card numbers or pin numbers to anyone on the computer except through secure shopping sites. If you are making an online purchase – ensure that the company you are buying from is reputable and has a secure online payment process. Look to see if they are using a verified secure server notification like McAfee Secure, Yahoo, or PayPal. Use credit cards rather than debit cards, and keep track of your purchases by making a list so that you can compare them to your statement when it comes in the mail.

#4 – Passwords – Use strong passwords: at least six characters, including at least one number and/or symbol, and no reference to your name or other personal information. For example, don’t use your street address or your first name and last 4 digits of your social security number. Use a different password for every site that requires one, and change passwords regularly. Keep a list of your current passwords in a paper file – not on your computer. If your computer is ever compromised – you have just done most of the work for the hacker. Also, never send your user name or password via email.

#5 – Email Safety - It is important to look carefully over every e-mail you receive. Don’t just randomly open up the spam mail like you do the junk mail at home. Be careful what you open. Never open e-mail and/or download attachments from anyone if you are not expecting them and if you must open an attachment – always virus scan it first, it could contain a security threat, like Trojan or Spyware. Use any spam filters available for your email provider. These will help separate legitimate emails from spam. Be aware of Scams that come through email and also via direct messaging on the social media websites.

The following is a partial list of SCAMS that are often sent via Email:
■ Advertising on online services – there are no “get rich quick” schemes
For example – Don’t respond (or at least if you do be very careful) to competitons, promotions, surveys etc. They may be an attempt to steal your details.
■ Online auctions – Going . . . Going . . . Uh-Oh! Unless you belong to the auction website, be leery of actually opening the email.
■ Disaster-related scams – when criminals exploit the caring and the victims by asking for money. Do not respond to requests for money unless it is an organization you already support. And if they solicit you – go directly to their website to use a secure server to donate.
■ Nigerian e-mail scam – why would a total stranger want to make you rich? These emails state that you have inherited money. There are also scams that are supposedly from the IRS, the Federal Government and even state officials. If you are to receive money from someone – they would send you a registered letter via the US Post Office – not via your email account.
■ Phishing. You get an e-mail that appears to be from your bank or an online service, most often PayPal or eBay, instructing you to click on a link and provide information to verify your account. Do not click the link. Often these have viruses or malware attached that can steal personal information.
■ Pharming or spoofing. Hackers redirect a legitimate Web site’s traffic to an impostor site, where you’ll be asked to provide confidential information. Scammers have been targeting social networking sites, such as Facebook.
■ Smishing. This is phishing done with text messaging on your smart phone. It instructs you to visit a bogus Web site.
■ Spyware. You’ve unknowingly downloaded illicit software when you’ve opened an attachment, clicked on a pop-up or downloaded a song or a game. Criminals can use spyware to record your keystrokes and obtain credit card numbers, bank-account information and passwords when you make purchases or conduct other business online. They also can access confidential information on your hard drive.

Much of this information was provided via Wired Safety. For additional information on scams – check out their website: http://www.wiredsafety.org/scams_fraud/index.html

Computers and the internet are very easily accessible. They aid so many in living Life Unlimited! This is a wonderful fact. However, in this age of advancing technology – it is also important to know the possible drawbacks and dangers that are out there so we can be safe and secure.

It was only about 36 degrees when we pulled out of the driveway to head to Overland Park, Kansas for church Sunday morning. We serve as pastors at an assisted living/Alzheimer care facility where those who, for whatever reason, are no longer able to attend their own churches. The beautiful sunlit thirty minute drive was just a foretaste of the joyous time we were to experience with our folks yesterday during our little one-hour service.

After we arrived, fifteen of our beloved senior friends made their way into the multi-purpose room of the facility, each one finding a place to sit in the circle and we were thrilled to see them all. Everywhere I looked, there were wheelchairs, walkers or canes. More importantly, though, there were human beings. God’s children.

I have many stories to tell about them all, for they are all very dear to my heart. But today I want to tell you about one in particular. Her name is Ruthie. (Her name has been changed in this article to protect her true identity.)

I was especially pleased to see our dear Ruthie show up for church, as she is not always able to be there. A staff member has to bring her because she lives on the ‘locked’ side of the facility, where the residents with memory care issues reside. Ruthie loves church and really hates to miss it. She doesn’t talk much, but when she does, she is very clear.

The very first conversation we had was pretty much a single sentence from her. She walked right up to me and said, in a very matter-of-fact tone, “You have pretty hair.” End of conversation. She turned and went to find a place to sit. Wow. I didn’t know enough about her to know if she COULD talk back then. In that moment, I learned not to underestimate or prejudge the abilities or awareness of an elderly person for any reason.

One of the things I love about Ruthie is the way she dresses. She is very particular about her appearance, always making sure that everything she is wearing is color coordinated. Two weeks ago, her color of choice was green. From head to toe, Ruthie was covered in green. Clothes, shoes, jewelry – everything was green – clear down to her lime green polka-dot socks. Brilliantly green. Ruthie was beautiful and she was wearing the sermon on her feet. Yes, the lime green polka-dot socks spoke to everyone in the room and became the lesson of love from Jesus’ heart that day.

Just looking at the socks made us all smile. We sang a hymn and I danced with Ruthie while we all sang. Ruthie loves to dance. I wondered what else she loves to do. I challenged everyone to remember those socks whenever they felt discouraged. We all wondered if Ruthie would be able to attend the next service, too. I was very curious to see what she would have on her feet if she did!

Once again, Ruthie blessed us with her fashion sense yesterday. Her color of choice was pink. Head to toe. Glancing down at her feet, I was so pleased to see the pretty pink socks with the rainbows and clouds on them. Two of the women decided they are definitely going shopping to find some outrageously colorful socks to wear. Ruthie’s bold taste was an inspiration to them. Everyone loved the socks. And I loved the opportunity to be able to encourage them once again in a way that they may be able to remember. By the end of the service, everyone was more cheerful and encouraged. It’s amazing what God can do with a pair of socks!

We talked about Jesus and how much He loves us. We talked about how our bodies begin to betray us as we grow older and oftentimes our minds do, too. We talked about how we learn something new every day, even if it’s just how to take a new medicine or an interesting fact about the life of a friend. We talked about how we might forget the things we’ve learned because of things like dementia or Alzheimer’s, but Jesus never forgets that we learned them and He takes care of us when we are not able to take care of ourselves.

Many times, we have talked about how we’re all just a bunch of kids inside of wrinkly old bodies that don’t work like they used to work and how we’re always shocked when we look in the mirror and see an old person staring back at us! We laughed, knowing that sometimes younger people just don’t get it, just like we didn’t get it when we were their ages, either, and we were sobered by the awareness that one day they will be the ‘crazy old people’ that the next generation will not understand.

We talked about remembering that the Lord still has purpose for their lives on this earth, or He would have taken them home by now. We talked about the importance of becoming like little children again and we read the verses about Jesus and the children that the disciples wanted Him to send away. Our services are simple. And the Lord is always present with us.

We’ve been going to this particular facility for the last five years, holding Sunday services with them and occasionally officiating or performing at a funeral for one who has ‘graduated’ to heaven. Only two of the seniors from our original little ‘congregation’ remain. Ruthie is one of them. Many have come and gone, for one reason or another. Some have moved to other facilities or into the homes of family members. I wonder about them all.

I’ve sat with some of them as they cried, feeling totally abandoned and unloved by their own families. My heart breaks for those who don’t understand why they are there and why they can’t go home. Who are these people and what were their lives like before they became ‘old’? How does it feel to find yourself in a place where you’re not related to anyone, including the people who are taking care of you?

I wonder about the wisdom that our generations are missing because we have chosen to forget about the elderly because of their ages. That seems insane to me now, although it probably didn’t seem insane when I was young and full of myself and my own ‘wisdom’. I was like so many others – I didn’t have time for them!

I’ve seen and learned many things. I know that my knowledge is still so limited where these folks and their lives are concerned. And as I watch the decline in the physical and/or mental health of some of them – changes that sometimes seem to occur almost over the course of a few days – I am encouraged and humbled by their quiet strength, their seemingly limitless determination to face head-on the trials of old age that are a constant assault against their minds and bodies – many times without the comfort of even one family member to turn to nearby. And I stand in wonder at the God who, in His infinite wisdom, chooses to let them live. They have purpose. They have great worth in His eyes. And those are the eyes that matter.

We have tremendous opportunities before us; opportunities to allow change within us to propel us forward into greater blessings…blessings of the joys that come as we honor those who have lived much longer than we have lived.

Blessings that come as we embrace those who may just know a lot more about life than we do – as we watch and learn from their lives, their hopes and dreams and the lessons they learned along the way. Blessings that come, as we step outside of ourselves and our very busy and hurrying world and fall into step with our parents, grandparents, elderly neighbors and friends for this season in their lives. Blessings that come to them and to us as we listen to their stories, loving each one with our undivided attention.

Many of our senior citizens are very lonely. Extremely lonely. Many of them want someone to talk to, someone to listen to, someone to give them a hug and a kind word. I wrote this article to give the readers a tiny glimpse into the world of the elderly. It is truly a very tiny glimpse, I know. But if it inspires you to consider this season of the year as a reflection of what your own life may be like in the not-too-distant future, then perhaps it will also inspire you to do something about those who already find themselves there.

I truly believe that one of the greatest blessings we will ever find in life comes from being a servant to others. It’s an honor to be able to serve our elderly human family members, whether we are related to them physically or not. So whether you choose to get involved through a nursing home, an assisted living facility or with the senior citizens in your family or neighborhood, please just get involved. Be a friend and be a student.

Do it for them. You’ll be amazed by the changes that you experience as you give more of yourself away for the life of someone else. Will you please join us? Right now there’s a ‘Ruthie’ for you out there, somewhere. Sitting in her little room wearing her lime-green polka dot socks, just waiting.

Vicky
http://vickyvmusic.blogspot.com

Daily we come into contact with individuals who are walking difficult paths. They inspire us! They are why we do what we do. They don’t set out to live limitless lives. As a matter of fact, most of the time the “limits” aren’t even on their radar. But one day they find themselves in a place they never imagined. As such, they are then faced with stopping or pressing on in spite of whatever the limitations are. Many reach out in all directions: reading, studying, asking – seeking help for their situation.

They discover a way to LIVE in spite of circumstances. Throught their journey – they become living examples! They personify Living Life Unlimited. And by doing so – they inspire those who may walk down a similar road. Often, they testify to us of God’s power and provision. Through their life, they motivate others. They inspire others to keep living.

So, today, we ask: Who do you know that is Living Unlimited? Share a little bit about their journey. By doing so – we hope that together we will make a difference in the lives of others who might be struggling. (Many of our customers and prospective customers read this blog – many who are just beginning difficult times.)

We will be accepting brief testimonies until November 1, 2009 – in our comments section. We want to share your stories. Our goal is to make a tapestry of HOPE for the hopeless; a collage of stories that encourage and promote LIMITLESS thinking.

Are you a caregiver? Are you a survivor? Are you a witness to a change in circumstances? Did you purchase a product or receive a service that changed someone’s life? Did you see where something or somebody made a way where there seemed to be no way? Please share it with us.

We will then write a post highlighting these amazing stories of Limitless Living. Maybe it will touch someone, maybe it will help someone, maybe it will inspire somebody? Because we know when we hear these stories that our customers share – we are often inspired and often in awe – when they get through the difficulties and are able to see from the other side.

We look forward to seeing HOW lives are changed moment by moment – for LIMITLESS LIVING!

Much of our healthcare reform is focused on direct care and insurance, and little is said about the home caregivers. Personally, I’ve not thought much about them. I recently had the opportunity to spend a week helping my 37 year old sister and her family, though, and I didn’t know how hard it could be.

My sister had been placed on bed rest 10 weeks prior to my visit due to pregnancy complications. She had possibly 21 more weeks to go if her pregnancy went to full term. Our father had flown out to help two months before I came, and I was going to give him a week’s break from assisting my sister’s husband with her care, and from watching their four-year-old son.

Before I came, we had already been trolling the Internet in search of solutions for bed rest, where she was required to lie down most of the time. We researched bedside tables, shower chairs, cups with straws, pillows for support… all minor things, but major for her comfort.

Since I had the luxury of working for a home medical equipment company, I had a vast resource at my disposal. Even so, frustration was high. Bedside tables were the wrong size and style for her bed, which was not on a frame. Her 1950s cottage was too small to store the shower chair easily when not in use. Precariously balanced meal dishes or the eternal bedside glass of water she was to drink were prime spilling targets for a very active four-year-old boy. Non-essential equipment, from the cheapest straws to the expensive mattress cover, was not covered by her military insurance, and added up quickly in costs for her temporary medical situation. And the hours of research were exhausting for everyone. We marveled at all the information available, and cried at the task of sorting through everything.

When I arrived, I found my sister’s husband working hard, caring for a child and bed-ridden wife on a special diet. Every meal and snack was meticulously planned and timed, with carbohydrates and proteins calculated for her newly diagnosed diabetes. Their son became ill the week I was there and we lost sleep. Non-crucial housekeeping chores were all but shoved aside at times. Every day seemed to bring a new situation with choices to be made, and the mental energy requirements took their toll.
I left exactly one week after I arrived, able to return to my own everyday healthy child care giving. But what about my sister’s husband, who was barely able to go to work, let alone get some much-needed relief from caring for those he loves? What about my 74-year-old father who was dealing with a newly diagnosed case of cellulitis and was to prop up his foot for several days while he also assisted with care giving? What about those who have a husband or wife debilitated by stroke, with little hope of a positive ending in 21 weeks as my sister was likely to have?

The struggle left an impression on me. Caregivers need trustworthy resources in which to turn during a healthcare situation. When crisis hits, sifting through the mountains of information seems almost impossible, especially when it comes to actual health advice, not just equipment. And caregivers are basically an after-thought for many in the healthcare industry. Finding an online support group for those caring for someone on temporary bed rest was next to impossible. Finding the time to even get online was a challenge as well.

I’ll be honest here: I have no solutions. What I have is a fresh understanding for those who tend to the needs of others on a round-the-clock basis. Depression can set in quickly, and support of some kind is necessary for most of us facing a crisis with a loved one, whether as the primary caregiver or as a family member or friend. If we aren’t the primary caregiver, perhaps we can support someone who is, and offer some respite from the daily grind. Bring food. Offer to spell the caregiver, even if it’s only for an hour. Go grocery shopping. Offer to price medical equipment or gather some information online. Or, more simply, maybe make a supportive call — and listen.

Our country is poised to change its healthcare system, and much of the debate centers on things like universal coverage, co-pays, out-of-network doctors, and so on. But with this latest week of care giving under my belt, I’d humbly say thanks to those who do it professionally, and here’s hoping there is something in all of the reform for you.